Commentary: This is one of those articles where I almost constantly thought while reading it, “Gee, this is exactly what I think, I just haven’t been able to articulate it so clearly before!”
Anyway, the two basic premises that I completely agree with:
1) Waiting until marriage, or otherwise a very long time to have sex with someone that you want to be in an long term relationship with is probably a bad idea.
2) Waiting is not necessarily more “virtuous” than not waiting. Having sex within the first few weeks of a relationship isn’t a matter of promiscuity, it simply admits humans’ general horniness.. not to mention that finding out how well your sexual chemistry works with the other person is important if the relationship is to last in more than a platonic manner.
I think it is rather interesting that we have this almost universally held idea that anyone who wants sex early in a relationship is somehow a whore. Why is that? Isn’t it possible that someone could be interested in both your mind and body? Isn’t that the point of being more than platonic?
… and a healthy libido a plus!
Context: Greta’s article on the importance of your partner having a matching libido and expectations about sex.
Commentary: This is one of those articles where I almost constantly thought while reading it, “Gee, this is exactly what I think, I just haven’t been able to articulate it so clearly before!”
Anyway, the two basic premises that I completely agree with:
1) Waiting until marriage, or otherwise a very long time to have sex with someone that you want to be in an long term relationship with is probably a bad idea.
2) Waiting is not necessarily more “virtuous” than not waiting. Having sex within the first few weeks of a relationship isn’t a matter of promiscuity, it simply admits humans’ general horniness.. not to mention that finding out how well your sexual chemistry works with the other person is important if the relationship is to last in more than a platonic manner.
I think it is rather interesting that we have this almost universally held idea that anyone who wants sex early in a relationship is somehow a whore. Why is that? Isn’t it possible that someone could be interested in both your mind and body? Isn’t that the point of being more than platonic?
~ by David on 2008 February 13, Wednesday.
Posted in blog/internet meme commentary, personal ruminations